Some guys are tempted by dating a trans person, but they avoid it because they think it will make them gay or less of a man. We are here to make some things clear (hey, that rhymes!).
If you are interested in transsexual dating but you have some doubts about it, you have come to the right place. If you are one of those men who have found that their girlfriend is trans person and now they are questioning their sexuality, just keep reading.
Dating a trans woman doesn’t change your sexual orientation
A huge amount of the stigma around straight men who date trans women is actually based in homophobia. Straight men who are attracted to trans women are called gay. This implicates that trans women aren’t really women. In real life, gay men often shy away from dating trans women because they aren’t supposed to be into women. You should know that if you identify as straight, then you can date trans women. If you are bisexual, you can date trans women. Even if you are gay you can date trans women, and it doesn’t change your identity. Keep in mind that you and only you get to decide how to define your sexual orientation.
Trans dating doesn’t make you abnormal
Usually in a movie when a straight man finds out that he’s been dating or having sex with a trans woman he vomits. Movie industry implicates that trans women are so repulsive that you would have to be out of your mind to be with them. Trans relationship is different from the one prescribed by society, and there is nothing repulsive about that.
Having sex with trans woman isn’t a fetish
OK, it can be but it shouldn’t. Many trans relationships have been reduced to a porno movie and an offensive cliché. People automatically presume that any person who goes on a transgender date must automatically have some kind of fetish. These relationships can be just like any other, filled with love, compassion and mutual respect. Just because it is trans, doesn’t make it kinky or perverted.
They don’t need your pity
Just because you are transgender dating doesn’t mean you are a good person. You are not doing her a favor. You are also not progressive because you are putting up with her gender identity. You’re not doing charity work by going out with a trans woman.
Loving a trans woman doesn’t define you
Just as it doesn’t define them. These women are lawyers, doctors, artists or writers, but they are always presented as trans and nothing else. You will also be “that guy who is into trans women”. But always keep in mind that these labels have nothing to do with reality and that they don’t define you. You are more than someone who loves trans women. It’s your right to decide what that means to you, and how you will explain it to the people around you.