Every kind of dating can be complicated and tricky. However, dating a transgender girl comes with its own set of rules. Here are some guidelines you should follow.
If you are into transgender dating, do a little research before you ask a girl out on a date. You don’t want to ask her a stupid question or say something completely inappropriate. Here are some tips on how to date a trans woman.
Respect her like any other girl
If you have ever dated a human before, you know how to date a trans person. Treat her like you would like to be treated – with respect, love and empathy.
Know that sexuality and gender are not the same things
Unlike sex which refers to the biological and physiological characteristics that define men and women, gender refers to the socially constructed roles, behaviors, activities, and attributes that are assigned to men and women in any given society.
Be opened about what you want
If you met your date through TG personals, be sure you let her know what your goals are. Do you want a one night stand, a fling or something more meaningful? If you tell her this you can see whether you are on the same page. If not, there is plenty more fish on transsexual dating sites.
Try not to be overly fixated on genitals
Some of the girls will have penises, some won’t, some are in –between. Forget about the situation in her pants and focus on her personality, her interest, likes and dislikes. You wouldn’t wanna miss getting to know a great person because you were too fixated on her down under.
Avoid trans talk
Try not to be overly fixated on her transness. She is going to find your date extremely boring. If she wanted to educate you and chat about trans things, she wouldn’t be on a date, she would be writing a book or teaching a course.
She’s a lady
She is a woman and you should treat her like that. She is not a half girl regardless of what she looks or acts like. Any girl can look or act in any way she likes and she will still be a girl, no? So pay for dinner, open the car door, give her compliments and be a real gentleman.
Dating a trans woman doesn’t make you gay
Dating a trans girl makes you straight, lesbian, or whatever sexuality you already are. Just because you found out that a girl you like is trans doesn’t mean that you are gay. Stop obsessing about labels, and just try to have some fun.
Don’t ask her about the past
When you are on a date, don’t be nosy and ask her what her name was before she became trans and stuff like that. Talk about who she is now, her hopes and dreams. And certainly don’t end your compliments with “like a real woman”. Those are not compliments and your date may be offended. Simple “you are beautiful” goes a long way.